Push Through Your Fears!

The month of September we are going to discuss what it means to push through your fear! You will hear stories of how others push through their fears! Prepare to Emancipate In Your Chair!

Willing To Walk on Water

When our children were 9, 8, and 6, I told my husband that we were going to spend three days at Disney World in Orlando, Florida. He looked at me like I was crazy; finances were tight and there were days we did not know how we were going to put gas in our cars. We both decided to leave the computer field with great salaries and return back to college to do our “dream” jobs. He was in school to become a RN and I was in school to become a mental health therapist. He decided to work as a tech in the hospital in order to gain experience, and I was working for a mental health provider. Both jobs together were not enough to manage all of our bills, so my idea of going to Disney World felt like a slap in his face.

But due to my perception of God, what we had, or didn’t have, and how he felt did not stop me from believing anything was possible.

A week after I informed my husband of my idea one of my friends gave me a brochure about a resort in Orlando, Florida. Many resorts will offer a discounted rate as long you listen to their sales pitch. For about $50 and two hours of our time, we could stay at their resort for four days and three nights. The following week, two family members told us anytime we wanted to go to Disney World we could, because they could get us in for free. My husband looked at me and said “Ok, I believe. But Nancia, we don’t have enough money to eat, put gas in the car, or to spend when we get there.” I looked at him with my excited, big smile and said, “Sweetie I’ve got a feeling God is going to take care of that too. We have enough for gas to get there and back, and where we are staying has a kitchen!” He agreed to do it so we left for Florida. The kids were so excited and had no idea of our worries. I had them believing we were rich, because we served a God that could give and do anything!

The moment we walked into the lobby of the resort, three different people asked us to do surveys for different other resorts and they wanted to pay us for it. We signed up for all three for the following day. We started at 7:00 am and by 2:30 pm we had earned $450. 

My husband was in shock because we came home with more money than we had before we left. I was praising God and this experience increased my faith. My husband still ask questions when I tell him one of my idea (I am a visionary), but he supports it, because he knows I trust and believe in a God that provides, heals, delivers, and prepares a table in the presence of my enemies.

I can tell you many stories of how God “divided the red sea” or provided my heart’s desires. My life is far from perfect, but I live in peace because I know God has my back regardless of what happens or doesn’t happen.  I am a woman of faith and not fear. We have been blessed to take our children to Disney 3 more times after this faith trip and now they are tired of it.

Hopefully you have stories that demonstrate how you decided to “walk on water” or have faith to push through, even when it felt like it was impossible. The key is seeing it, believing God is with you and will help you, and taking steps toward it. If you have a desire that may seem impossible, don’t let the water (doubt, lack of resources, people, time) stop you; learn to or be willing to walk on it! There is water in front of you… go for it!!

Written By Nancia Leath, MA LPC NCC - Don't forget to order a copy of your book - Emancipate In Your Chair - 50% off because Nancia loves giving back!

The Effects of Being Cruelly Reduced...

Rejection happens everyday, especially to people who has diffident personality, an unusual look, unacceptable background, different belief systems/actions, or how intelligent a person is (you could be too intelligent or not intelligent enough). Rejection is powerful enough to usher years of depression and rage, especially if nothing is done about it. We have recognized lately this is an issue with our youth as a result of different killings by students who were bullied. There are a lot of campaigns and programs to help stop the bullying for children, but not for adults. As a society we’ve paid little attention to how adults bully each other. Family members, friends, co-workers, media, and even organizations do and say things to ridicule, mentally beat up, or torment others for their differences. There is a distinction when we point out things to help or diminish a person, but somehow we have found a way to blur the lines.

Judging is the core factor for bullying. People do this to help establish who is more worthy or important. Research has shown that judging and demeaning others gives bullies a boost in self-esteem, it causes them to feel more powerful and valuable as a human being. There are people who are addicted to judging and demeaning others in order to get a self-esteem rush. People are willing to judge and discount others because for some strange reason this tactic has helped them with marketing or cause others who don’t understand their true motives look up to them and consider them to be powerful or even funny. There are situations when people fear them, either way they have found a way by speaking or doing negative actions towards others to gain positive attention to self.

This note is to help those who have experienced such painful occurrence. Being cruelly reduced for whatever reason can affect anyone psyche. This form of rejection triggers most people to feel bad about themselves or causes them to respond from a place of bitterness. Today instead of feeling negative about self or feeling like a victim and having the desire to gain revenge, let’s do the opposite. If a person or family member has a habit of saying negative statements in front of others or behind your back to diminish you don’t take it personal. Know they are using you to get their self-esteem rush and this is really not your problem. If the people they speak negative to about you decide not to befriend you, see it as GREAT. Know the people that suppose to be in your life will be there. Plus you only want a person who loves you for you and not based on how others perceive you. If you are having difficulties with letting go of your anger, bitterness, fantasies of revenge, or depression due to this form of rejection please speak with your therapist to help you process your feelings and help you release any negative emotions.

Be encourage and always take steps to become or maintian mentally & spiritually health...

Written by Nancia Leath, MA LPC NCC – © 2014 All rights reserved

Are You Doing It Your Way?

I woke up around 2 am this morning and I was prompted to read my Bible - John 11. The story is talking about the Death of Lazarus, but what stood out to me was Martha's (Lazarus' sister) response to Jesus after her brother Lazarus was dead for four days - verse 22 and Jesus' response v 25. She told Jesus if you was here my brother would not have died, but I know that EVEN NOW GOD WILL give you whatever you ask. Martha understood the relationship Jesus had with God and the power of God! However, Jesus had to inform her He was the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die (your dream of having a spouse by a certain age, children, career, or wealth may have died or not come forth).  Martha felt Jesus could have done what she desired differently. She wanted Jesus to come when Lazarus was sick or come before he died and healed him. Nevertheless, Jesus knew he needed to allow what she loved so dearly to die in order for God's glory so that He (God's Son) may be glorified. She did not know of the big picture or aware of how this demonstration helped many believe in the power of God through his son Jesus Christ.

There are things many of you have STOPPED believing God to do because He has not done it in ways you thought he should have done it. Some of you wanted to become a parent, but God knew you would do better with teaching MANY children, allowed you to birth children in your 40s or 50s, mentor youth, buy schools or youth centers, or gave you godchildren. At the end of the day you are still giving, investing, and helping develop children. Some of you are depressed, can't see how your desire are happening, or live in doubt because you are still waiting on this and that, but have not told God, "I want you to be glorified in my life, please do it your way, and I believe you are the resurrection for EVERYTHING in my life."  Having this state of mind changes your perceptions towards life and increases your hope or FAITH. Plus it allows you to live out the laws in order to be blessed. You find yourself freely celebrating with others when they do, gain, or become what you desire. You will have peace knowing what you want will take place in how God desire it to happen. Worrying about your life will never be a factor. We tend to focus or become stress of how it should be done and not being thankful or mediating on God's way or what He is already doing in our lives. We try to make it happen and find ourselves causing more issues or live a life of defeat. The goal is to have the same attitude as Martha towards life situations we can't control "but I know that EVEN NOW GOD WILL give you whatever you ask." Jesus asked Martha in v26 after informing her who he was "Do you believe this?"

This note is to encourage you to believe and only desire God to do what you want HIS way. It will happen if you don't STOP believing, but most of the time it's usually in ways you least expect. I'm not sure if you are aware of Mrs. Tamar's  story, but she is a great example of Martha. She was aware that God could do it, but based on her story it was not done like she thought he would do it. At the end of the day she thank God for all he has done. Please listen to her song Thank You Lord....You just Emancipated in Your Chair with Nancia...

Photo by FreddyO

P.S. I enjoyed this time with you let's do this again next Tuesday, hopefully you bought your book Emancipate In Your Chair, it will improve your life. Nancia Leath
 

WHY Emancipate In Your Chair was Written?

Writing Emancipate In Your Chair was a pleasure, because I knew it was an intelligent way to get therapy in the homes of people. I would try different, nontraditional mental health approaches on MySpace* before writing this amazing book and received great responses from my loyal readers. To be honest this book was birth based on how people I did not know, but grew to love responded to my therapeutic MySpace posts. I was aware of many people refusing to speak with a trained counselor about their problems, life goals, relationships, parenting issues, or decisions so I took a risk by presenting a user-friendly approach.

I've been trying to kill the stigma towards mental health therapy for years by using social media, music, trainings/presentations - example of 1 and my book Emancipate In Your Chair. It is so awesome to see how many perceptions towards mental health therapy has changed the past 10 years, but we have a long way to go.  However, I'm thrilled to say I'm the first licensed professional counselor to write a book like Emancipate In Your Chair and create music that help change the mindset of people.

I must say writing the book was the easy part, compared to marketing the book.  I knew I needed help so I traveled to Settle, Washington and attended a workshop for new authors. I met a lot of wonderful people and collected great information. I sold over 30 books at my 1st book signing. I was so excited, because that was my first attempt. I took 50% of the money I made from that book signing, and used it to send books to people that were incarcerated. I will never forget the email I received from one of the persons in jail of how the book was helping him. His response encouraged me to tell therapists about Emancipate in Your Chair. Mrs. Angela (R.I.P), one of those therapists used it with several of her clients and wrote a review (you will find it in the review section).

I look forward in Emancipating in our Chair together here on this blog. So go ahead and buy your copy so we can discuss or help you process your thoughts after reading and completing interventions out the book. All Smiles and know we are in this together!

*Nancia Leath is no longer or post on MySpace.